Principles of mediation
Family Mediation is a voluntary process.
Either party can engage or disengage from the process, as they choose.
Should you wish to have your case
heard in court,
you will have to attend a MIAM
~ with an Accredited Family Mediator ~
in order to obtain the relevant, signed form.
There are some exemptions,
which can be found here
A core responsibility of the mediator,
is to remain impartial at all times.
Mediators cannot provide advice,
must not tell clients what they should do
and cannot put solutions on the table.
Mediators can share knowledge,
outline what other people have done in
and can put options forward for discussion.
The process of mediation
must be managed and controlled
by the mediator. They can listen to client suggestions, but must not hand over control
to either party.
and everything disclosed
in the mediation process
should be treated as
strictly private and confidential.
The only other person with whom you
~ the participant ~
should discuss matters,
is your legal representative.
Of course, there are some exceptions ...
finance, for example, has to be open
and cannot be confidential;
if a mediator felt a child was at significant
risk of harm, it must be reported;
and, if the mediator suspected either party
to be the recipient of proceeds from crime,
it cannot be ignored.
All discussions are held on the basis of being 'without prejudice'.
You ~ the clients ~ make all the decisions.
This is why mediation works so well.
Any agreement is your agreement.
You are the ones to have crafted it, negotiated it and agreed it.
Mediators are not allowed
to make decisions, recommendations or put solutions on the table.
If you agree that your children
should have a voice in the
then it will be handled according to
Child Inclusive Mediation (CIM) principles.
I will explain this protocol to you
at your first joint meeting on parenting.