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Family Mediation Matters

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Principles of mediation



Family Mediation is a voluntary process.

Either party can engage or disengage from the process, as they choose.

Should you wish to have your case

heard in court,

you will have to attend a MIAM

~ with an Accredited Family Mediator ~

in order to obtain the relevant, signed form.

There are some exemptions,

which can be found here 


A core responsibility of the mediator,

is to remain impartial at all times.

Mediators cannot provide advice,

must not tell clients what they should do

and cannot put solutions on the table.

Mediators can share knowledge,

outline what other people have done in

similar circumstances

and can put options forward for discussion.

The process of mediation

must be managed and controlled

by the mediator. They can listen to client suggestions, but must not hand over control

to either party.


Everything discussed,

everything heard

and everything disclosed

in the mediation process

should be treated as

strictly private and confidential.

The only other person with whom you

~ the participant ~

should discuss matters,

is your legal representative.

Of course, there are some exceptions ...

finance, for example, has to be open

and cannot be confidential;

if a mediator felt a child was at significant

risk of harm, it must be reported;

and, if the mediator suspected either party

to be the recipient of proceeds from crime,

it cannot be ignored.

All discussions are held on the basis of being 'without prejudice'.


You ~ the clients ~ make all the decisions.

This is why mediation works so well.

Any agreement is your agreement.

You are the ones to have crafted it, negotiated it and agreed it.

Mediators are not allowed

to make decisions, recommendations or put solutions on the table.

Child inclusive

If you agree that your children

should have a voice in the

mediation process,

then it will be handled according to

Child Inclusive Mediation (CIM) principles.

I will explain this protocol to you

at your first joint meeting on parenting.